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Friday, December 23, 2011

Anger

Today I lost my temper.  Actually for the last two weeks, I've been seething in anger.  But today I vented on my wife.

For the past month, my entire team quit at work (my manager, co-workers, etc.)  It's put me has holding a huge burden... and the workload went sky high.

The result was I was not meditating, not doing yoga... and just trying to repress this frustration.  I just thought, "it's only one more day" or "one more week... just keep it together and then you can go back to a spiritual life."

But today it finally came out.  I was driving back from a Dr. appointment for our son, and my wife asked me a question.  I answered her, and she didn't like my answer so she asked again, and then i got frustrated and said something mean.  She got angry, which got me angry... and then she wasn't talking to me.

My flaw here is for a variety of reasons:
First, I should never have stopped the spiritual work.  Instead I should have increased it.But working to midnight, and getting up early, I didn't know how to fit it in.  I should have made time.
Second, I forgot that the only reason I work, is to support my wife.  What good is it to do a good job if I loose what I'm working for (my wife, and family)?
Third, I need to be more in tune with my states of mind.  The moment I started dipping down, I should have stopped and said "ok you're getting frustrated... calm down." - Meditating more should help with that.

I apologized to her today... but I don't think she has accepted my apology yet.

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